How NOT to treat a Blind Date
In a BYU single's ward activity that involved another ward, my roommate Katie won a game that required her to go on a date with the male winner from the other ward. He was nice and made plans for a date soon afterwards. She was not too excited about it, so she asked if I would go with her. Her date was accommodating and said he'd bring a friend for me. They came and picked us up from our apartment. The plan was for us to go to a little cafe on University Avenue in downtown Provo to see a band play. The ride over was nice enough. My date was texting while Katie's date led the conversation for the rest of us about the latest Jack Johnson cd. We arrived at our destination, entered, and as we were walking through the place to find a seat my date "happened" to run into a very attractive girl that he knew and wanted to talk to. He said he would come sit with us in a minute.
The band came out and started playing. My date stayed posted up where he was with his female "friend". After the first set, which was around 30 minutes, my date looked to have no intention of re-joining our group. Katie's date kept apologizing for his friend, and even offered to get me a drink or smoothie or something since his friend hadn't come back to buy me one himself. A little more time passed, and I was over the whole situation (not that I was that disappointed). I didn't think he was that cute, but perhaps talking to him may have changed my perception of him. To be honest I don't remember how it all ended. Katie's date offered to take us home shortly after that. I don't remember if we went without my date or not...that's how indifferent I was to the situation.
I walked away not feeling hurt or sad or anything like that, but I felt truly embarrassed for my date. I had been on a few blind dates before that one (three that I can specifically remember). All three were people who knew both me and the guys, and tried setting us up. Each was disappointing in their own way, but none were as terribly horrible as the experience you've just read. More than anything I was annoyed at spending the time and effort to get cute for a date that didn't care at all. I could have worn sweats, no makeup, glasses, and hair in a messy bun, and gotten the same amount of attention.
If this teaches you nothing else my boys, let it leave you with this:
-Respect your date.
-Treat your date like a date.
-Take interest in your date (whether attracted or not).
-Turn your phone on silent and do not take any calls or answer any texts...they can wait.
-Most importantly, don't agree to being set up if you are not going to do all of the above.
Love,
Mom
The band came out and started playing. My date stayed posted up where he was with his female "friend". After the first set, which was around 30 minutes, my date looked to have no intention of re-joining our group. Katie's date kept apologizing for his friend, and even offered to get me a drink or smoothie or something since his friend hadn't come back to buy me one himself. A little more time passed, and I was over the whole situation (not that I was that disappointed). I didn't think he was that cute, but perhaps talking to him may have changed my perception of him. To be honest I don't remember how it all ended. Katie's date offered to take us home shortly after that. I don't remember if we went without my date or not...that's how indifferent I was to the situation.
I walked away not feeling hurt or sad or anything like that, but I felt truly embarrassed for my date. I had been on a few blind dates before that one (three that I can specifically remember). All three were people who knew both me and the guys, and tried setting us up. Each was disappointing in their own way, but none were as terribly horrible as the experience you've just read. More than anything I was annoyed at spending the time and effort to get cute for a date that didn't care at all. I could have worn sweats, no makeup, glasses, and hair in a messy bun, and gotten the same amount of attention.
If this teaches you nothing else my boys, let it leave you with this:
-Respect your date.
-Treat your date like a date.
-Take interest in your date (whether attracted or not).
-Turn your phone on silent and do not take any calls or answer any texts...they can wait.
-Most importantly, don't agree to being set up if you are not going to do all of the above.
Love,
Mom
